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FPQ – say what?…how?

In the context of blogging and writing, what do you think is more important: what you say or how you say it?

In blogging and writing in general, I think the “how” is more important than the “what” because I believe how you say something determines whether or not the reader remains engaged. Just as with talking, the right phraseology sets the tone and either keeps or loses the audience. They will receive the message in different ways according to how it’s expressed, which could make a subject they’re least interested in sound appealing. No matter what you’re writing you have to question formal vs. informal language; Poetry vs. prose; first vs. third person; immediate gratification vs. suspense.

Think about how many articles you read concerning wearing masks and which was more clear to you: “wear a mask, save a life” or “don’t wear a mask and you die” or “we’re asking everyone to do their part to help save lives by wearing a mask.” They set out with the same intent but how they were written made a difference. Well, for some.

©️2021 CSNelson, Don’t Forget the Half

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Confrontation…good or nah?

FPQ – When it comes to your friends, your spouse, your significant other, or members of your family, is it better to confront them about things they say or do that bother or upset you or is it better to try to ignore those things in order to maintain peace in your relationship?

“Peace is not the absence of conflict but the ability to cope with it.” – Ghandi

No matter who’s on the receiving end, when it comes to confronting someone about something they did that bothered me I pick my battles wisely (e.g., arriving 5 minutes late vs, an hour). If it’s something I feel needs to be addressed, diplomacy works best. With my really good friends and family, sarcasm is often my chosen approach because they know me well enough to decipher my tone and choice of words. Confronting a person doesn’t always solve the problem but it gives each of us an opportunity to hear the other’s perspective. If it’s a serious matter that greatly affects our relationship and we just can’t come to an understanding, it’s time for me to control what I can and decide how I relate with that person going forward, if at all.

If a person acts without malice, more times than not the grievance can be easily remedied. Too often people aren’t honest with each other and somehow expect another to know their thoughts or feelings. Ignoring what bothers you can cause unnecessary stress, which ultimately could strain your relationship anyway, so I suggest you do whatever you can to prevent [further] discord.

©️2020 CSNelson, Don’t Forget the Half

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FPQ #94 – Inexcusable in 2020!

My response was previously posted in the Comments section of Fandango’s Provocative Question #94

What do you think about what happened in the United States yesterday? Are you shocked or surprised at the outcome, if it’s even known as you read this? Or are the results of the election what you expected? And finally, are you happy or unhappy?

Absent the final results, I’m saddened by the narrow margin between the presidential candidates. In 2016 I was shocked by the number of voters willing to place the country’s fate in the hands of a failed businessman with no moral compass. I understood many people weren’t aware of #45’s tactics at the time but growing up in New York gave me the advantage of knowing what he is capable of. Here we are four years later, when everyone has witnessed his incompetence and destruction, and so many still support him. I’m more disgusted than surprised, at this point. America has shown its whole ass and its crack is too far right. Even if Biden wins, the evil of the people is already known and can’t be put back in the box. I was certainly shocked by Kentucky and South Carolina Senate races. I need to further lower my expectations of the American people. 😞🤷🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️