FPQ – When it comes to your friends, your spouse, your significant other, or members of your family, is it better to confront them about things they say or do that bother or upset you or is it better to try to ignore those things in order to maintain peace in your relationship?
“Peace is not the absence of conflict but the ability to cope with it.” – Ghandi
No matter who’s on the receiving end, when it comes to confronting someone about something they did that bothered me I pick my battles wisely (e.g., arriving 5 minutes late vs, an hour). If it’s something I feel needs to be addressed, diplomacy works best. With my really good friends and family, sarcasm is often my chosen approach because they know me well enough to decipher my tone and choice of words. Confronting a person doesn’t always solve the problem but it gives each of us an opportunity to hear the other’s perspective. If it’s a serious matter that greatly affects our relationship and we just can’t come to an understanding, it’s time for me to control what I can and decide how I relate with that person going forward, if at all.
If a person acts without malice, more times than not the grievance can be easily remedied. Too often people aren’t honest with each other and somehow expect another to know their thoughts or feelings. Ignoring what bothers you can cause unnecessary stress, which ultimately could strain your relationship anyway, so I suggest you do whatever you can to prevent [further] discord.
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