During the past month I have written two obituaries of family members I loved and admired for most of my life. I’m sure the thought of writing someone’s obituary sounds daunting, and honestly it was, but it also allowed me to reflect on the lives of my loved ones and how much each impacted my life.
My sweet cousin, who was like my best friend and confidante growing up, loss her fight with breast cancer on October 21st. After only three weeks of learning about her losing battle, she was gone. I’m so blessed to have been able to speak with and express my love to her on what turned out to be her final day. Only six short hours later she peacefully transitioned to be reunited with her mother and brother. The rollercoaster of emotions during that time was overwhelming and all I wanted to do was stay in the bed. But then only two days after my cousin’s funeral, I was thrown to the ground again when my dear uncle (my moms eldest brother) passed away.
I’m less than 24 hours beyond my uncle’s funeral and I feel completely numb. I smile at the thought of him and his wife being together again but it’s a tough loss. My uncle was so noble and kind, admired by many and loved by all. It was beautiful to be reminded of just how much he meant to all who knew him, before he was laid to rest with the honor he so deserved.
This year has been challenging enough with the effects of COVID causing so much physical distance amongst family and friends. Compound that with death and not being able to travel to be with family for the love and support everyone needs during times of grief, life just seems cruel. I empathize with families of COVID patients when it comes to not being able to be by the side of their loved ones fighting for life. I also recognize how everyone losing family and friends right now is being robbed of that “final goodbye” before facing another level of grief, and then they’re left to suffer alone. It didn’t have to be this way!
Being the type of person who tries to find positivity and encouragement in all situations, I feel a little more at ease knowing my cousin and uncle had a relationship with God that helped them both accept their fate. They each expressed being ready for what may come because of where they believed it would take them.
My memories of family who have left this earthly life are beautiful and I will continue to cherish the times we shared doing so many wonderful things together along our journeys.
“He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.”
“The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
©️2020 CSNelson, Don’t Forget the Half